Men should have no counter-say in their wives' decisions about birth - it should either be support or absence.
I really feel the need to reply to this quote. TFB I understand that you had a bad experience with your birth and felt unsupported and let down by your husband and other people but I think that what you say is all a bit harsh. Shock horror there are women who would like their partners to be with them and would like to involve their husbands in the decision making process.