And I bet those women are supported by their husbands. They have a nice dialogue: not sure about homebirth or midwife centre, let's talk about it and decide what WE want because I'm comfortable with you preferring either option. Men by all means can have input and can lead to a great birth experience - but when a man is refusing to let his partner birth the way she feels safe and supported, then he shouldn't be there.

In this case, the DH is not supportive of the birth choice of Amber4. So he shouldn't have a say in it and bully her into something she doesn't want - because it may not stop there. And it may, he may be the world's best birth support if she succumbs to this wish. But the question is - do you want to take that gamble? I did, thinking I would lose, but thinking the relationship damage would be less than if DH didn't have a say at all. But people shouldn't be put into that position - I know DH wouldn't pick a wish that didn't impact on me going ahead over him being tortured any day, so why should a woman pick it?