Hi ladies, Im currently 23 and DF is 20 there was no problem on my side of the family when i fell pregnant (by accident but a happy one) because my mum was 19 when my sister was born and my dad was 18 they wernt married either and in those days that just didnt happen especially to a good catholic girl. so they copped all the crap that unfortunately we still cop today. But DFs family on the other hand was a different story. Instantly he started copping all the `your too young what are you doing keeping the baby` and the ` you do realise now you have to marry her are you sure this is really what you want` I was very offended by the way they were looking down on us (mostly me) it was like i did it deliberately just to keep him or something. We had decided in a year or 2 we would start trying and that probably would have been medically assisted because im not supposed to be able to have any kids (how wrong was my gyno!) but we were blessed earlier then planned and so be it we are incredibly happy. I do agree that it is personal choice and from a very young age i could only see myself as a mum. i remember my teacher asking me what i wanted to be when i grew up and i said `a mummy` The thing is majority of women who will look down on a young mum is one who was a young mum themselves and yes they may have sacrificed a lot of things for thier child but if you ask them would they have waited they will usually tell you No they are happy with the life they had. I personally think its hypocritical for people to judge a young mother or an unplanned pregnancy. A baby is the greatest gift in the world it truely is.
Have a great day
Mel