I must say that when I was pregnant with my son I was 21 and had only been with my now husband for about 4 months so there were tounges wagging everywhere and people trying to make us get married all that sort of thing,

and during the ante-natel classes I felt very out of place as we were the youngest by far and when we had to have group activities other couples didn't take us seriously and that made me sad.

I am so glad that I had my son when I did and at the age that I did and that I had my daughter when I was 24 but know that my husband and I are wanting to have a third child it has brought about many new opinions,

People are saying that we should stop at 2 and not to be silly and have 3, to think about the financial strain as they grow, I do not want to make such an important decision based on future finances I love my children and my husband and my life I wouldn't change it,

I value others opinions and understand where they are coming from but what it comes down to is that it is your life and your decission I never really had many aspirations for a career so I agree with Shannon that it made it easier to stay at home,

and we have had some really tough times with finances and with in our relationship but we got through it and I am so proud of what we have achieved and now we are stronger than ever,

I think if you have children young and thats what you want to do you should go for it, what is so wrong with women choosing to have kids young and making that their life afterall careers are not everthing our kids are. and on the other hand if you choose a career then again it is your choice,

this is about choices and having the right not to be judged