I'm totally pot kettle black here. As I don't get the teens in this house to do enough... But I think everyone is right.

Please also get counselling.

The next thing I want to say may be in that bit of "not what I want to hear" so please bare with me.

I've been where you are, I've been easily agitated. Resentful of lack of privacy or space. But I basically had to get over it. It's not their fault. And I would HATE to ruin a beautiful relationship because of my own selfishness. We are so lucky. Yes there are plenty of other people in the world who don't have to share their families. But there are plenty who do. And I think we get too jealous of other people's situations that we don't appreciate our own and work towards making it better.

I know for me I have a lot of single friends, who get time out with their partners every other weekend. I ENVY that. I would give ANYTHING to have that quality time with my DH. However, the hard work that goes into being a single parent they damn well deserve every second of it. I get to be with my partner all the time. Whether it's quality or not.

As for your DH I can't imagine not having my son a part of my life for 8 years and then having him come to live with me permanently. There's a lot of boundaries and ground work that needs to be built up there. And it's not going to be as easy as making ground rules and sticking by them. There's not enough history there for it to be comfortable to do that. And the last thing you want to be is the evil stepmother. Try as hard as it is not to resent him for him being in your space, because the last thing you want is for that to cross over into your patience levels with him.

Take one day at a time. Be patient, but fair, and consistent. And try and see the good in this situation as I'm sure there is some. And slowly it will work out. But it's a slow process. And you will gain from this not lose out I swear!