The negative comments have begun! *vent*

**Trillian** · February 3rd, 2009, 08:05 AM

WOW, that's really really really CRASS!!!! You don't say that sort of stuff about a friend, even if they only meant it jokingly. I would be saying something to her about it cause that's just not on. And not only that, people are going to wonder who she's talking about and if you didn't want it completely public yet, then she has to respect that too.

**Papillon** · February 3rd, 2009, 04:01 PM

It my friend had said that, she'd be a friend no more. That would have made me so mad !! You have every right to be upset Tanya.

Make that 2!!!

There no way id be talking to her again.... regardless of her reasons.. FRIENDS would NOT say or even think anything like that! Its just disgusting!

Not to mention petty

**kitten2b** · February 3rd, 2009, 05:00 PM

thats such a rude comment for her to make

SugarDust · February 3rd, 2009, 02:27 PM

poo to her tanya!

It is upto you and your partner how many munchkins you have!

don't listen to her!

**jackrose** · February 3rd, 2009, 09:01 AM

That is so rude! i love the fact that she couldnt say it to your face but can let u know what she thinks publicly!
If people think that they're obviously not good enough to be your friend. So long as you and DP and all your littluns are happy thats all that matters.
Again that's so so so rude

Feel better
Skye xx

Well said skybie, it is absolutely unacceptable to be so rude to a person 'behind their back' / 'in public'. If she said it to you, at least you would have had a right of reply. I think you have a perfectly justifiable right to feel offended. A new pregnancy is something to be congratulated, celebrated and enjoyed, not disapproved of by someone who has no responsibility in the situation or mocked so crassly.

I agree with the others who suggest to 'unfriend' her. I wouldn't bother posting back, her comment doesn't deserve a public response. I would avoid a public slinging match - it would just be more upsetting. I had a friend go through something like this on facebook, someone was really offensive and when she messaged them, the person sent her private message to everyone with a sarcastic response. It wasn't pretty. I think you should just move on as the bigger person and celebrate the new addition to your clan.

Congratulations Tanya, what a wonderful gift to have a big family. More joy for you and your partner and more siblings for your kids. Siblings can give kids support in this world like no-one else can.

**Lulu** · February 3rd, 2009, 09:06 AM

Maybe something like - 'some people have no class and are CRASS beyond words.....'

THEN delete her.

**[M]umma[M]ia** · February 3rd, 2009, 09:07 AM

hun - dont let the little tart get to u. shes not worth you worry. Take it one day at a time and remember we are all here for u xoxo

**ll80** · February 3rd, 2009, 09:34 AM

so rude and hurtful, maybe link this thread to your facebook so she can see what a no hoper she is.

**aussienic** · February 3rd, 2009, 08:24 AM

Thats beyond rude its just disgusting..

I would block her and tell her where to go if she contacts you..

**Tobily** · February 3rd, 2009, 08:30 AM

Whoah!

That's awful! I'd be pretty peeved about that too. Not on!!

***Elle*** · February 3rd, 2009, 08:32 AM

OMG I would be so angry about that, for goodness sake isnt it YOUR choice as to how many children you have, geeze if you wanted 10 its not for anyone else to say anything about,

an opinion is one thing but being rude is another, I think I would just delete her if she does anything like that again she is not worth it seriously

**rosehannah** · February 3rd, 2009, 08:47 AM

Congrats. on your pg, I know what it's like to have a surprise bub, the idea can take a bit of getting used to especially when your feeling blah. I hope that are able to find some enjoyment soon. As for your "friend" don't let her crass talk debase you or the intamite act that created your precious little one.
Best wishes for the rest of your pg.

**Nicambhar** · February 3rd, 2009, 08:57 AM

aaawww Tanya, I think your bloody great and to hell with what anybody says. Some people should just learn to shut the F up if they haven't anything nice to say. xx

**squidipa** · February 3rd, 2009, 05:31 PM

That honestly is beyond rude some ppl should be more sensitive and keep nasty thoughts to them selves this year me and hubbie will also be TTC 5. that was such a rude thing to say!!!!!!! Big hugs!!!!

**Snacks** · February 3rd, 2009, 01:44 PM

Your anger is perfectly justified, Tanya. I hope you don't stay too upset about it for long - it is plain obvious that she's "not very classy" as you so delicately put it. My word, that is absolutely appalling.

**Jennifer13** · February 3rd, 2009, 02:00 PM

You're a much classier woman than she is, Tan. Just ignore her and make sure your next update is "We've done so well with the 4 we have, we've decided to bestow the gift of number 5 on the world!"

**loulabelle** · February 3rd, 2009, 02:55 PM

Tanya, I wouldn't be taking that lightheartedly either.It's a horrible thing to say, joke or not!especially for the world to see.Golly, some people!

**feeb** · February 3rd, 2009, 03:54 PM

How bloddy rude do some want to be!!!

I would speak to her about it or block her as a friend.

WEhat you do in your house is your business and if you have 12 kids its your choice no one elses.