My DD has just turned 10, her Dad left us before she turned 2.

I have been lucky enough to remarry a lovely man who has raised DD like his own, he has been with us since she was around 3.

I went to Emmas school councellor at the start of the year as i was concerned about her moods when she was coming home after her weekends with her dad, she would often just start crying over nothing etc. AS it turns out her Dad would end up leaving her with his MUm and go of and spend the night with his partner leaving my DD waiting the next morning for him to return.

Anyway Tuesday the school ring and ask if i can come in for a chat that afternoon. The councillor has suggested/recommended that DD no longer see her dad, she stressed this is something that they normally do not like to do, but my DD has been deeply emotionally hurt and every fortnight she goes to him he hurts her again, she has said this has affected her very deeply, infact she has never seen a child become so upset and continully cry each session, she is not getting better if anything she is becoming worse. For my DDS emotional well being it would be better if she didnt go to her Dads house.

We do not have a court order saying that she has to visit him , infact i have full custody according to child support as he only has her one night a fortnight or month.
So do i just stop her from going and wait to see what he does, then fight him. I have always known my DD gets hurt but just not this badly, he has moved on with his life and left her behind, today is her 10th birthday and he didnt even call her

So where do i go from here, i was thinking of telling his mother that she can come take DD for a visit but she wont be staying anymore.

Tan