oh tan, how awful for your DD.

Mine now rarely goes to visit her dad - she doesnt want to stay the night and she has told him this. This whole year I think she slept there... 3 times?

Is it a very regular thing, or do you always contact each other to confirm? I used to find that I was always chasing up x to see if he was having her - stopped doing that and now we only hear from him every so often. Like your DD, mine comes home upset and says she doesnt want to go there anymore (she hates her step brother).....

Because I now leave it up to him to confirm, she probably goes for a day visit every 4-6 weeks, but doesnt stay overnight. She is much much happier that way.

GL

oh p s- unless he gets a court order to take her, he can't