Your poor friends.

That's a tough one. I do believe in taking children to funerals if its the funeral of a person who is truly in their life. TBH I think hiding death can be more scary for kids than being open about it. Having said that, we are going to my DH's grandmother's funeral on Friday and won't be taking our girls. They haven't seen her for well over a year and only saw her a handful of times before that.

If he hasn't seen this little girl very much recently, and I'm guessing he hasn't given her illness, then I would lean towards not taking him - especially given how you need to go back to work so can't deal with any issues that may arise once its all settled in for your DS.