Hi,

I apologise for the sensitive topic...but really need to get others opinions on this.

One of our friends 4yo daughter passed away (cancer ). I've know the mum and daughter from a parent class then mothers group from when our 4year olds were newborns. The funeral is Friday and I am unsure whether to take DS1 (I wouldn't take DS2 -2yo - I know he wouldn't sit still and quiet and being that I'm going solo- and that its at lunchtime right when he'd be due to sleep...just don't feel its right for him).

My Boy's go to childcare Friday's anyway- as I work the full day. I will be still working that day - I've planned to go out for dinner and drinks straight after work with my colleagues...so I'll just be taking the time off during the day for the funeral- so i go back to work after. Which means DS1 will be going to childcare in the morning then be taken out at lunchtime to be taken back. Its my XDH's weekend to have the Boy's so he picks them up from childcare - cause he's not welcome at my parents- so the Boy's have to be at childcare for that.

I think he slightly understands death. He watched our pet ****atiel die in my hands last year- so kind of understands what the word dying means. We also buried it together. When I told him his friend died he immediately was sad and related it to our bird.

And even though its been 6months since we've seen them- he still remembered this little girl (he was actually asking to see her last week- the morning I found out things weren't look good). A couple of other of our mothers group friends are going. One is definitely not taking her 2 children. The other is considering taking her daughter (same age). One of my other concerns is that if this other little girl goes and DS1 goes- they could end up wanting to play.

Also my mum pointed out a situation she knew where a friend of hers had cancer - he ended up passing away. Then his grandson got cancer too and was questioning whether he would die like his grandpa...he was about the same age as my DS1...so makes me wonder how they would read the situation.

I think I'm more swaying to not taking him, but just thought I'd get others opinions.

Plus also want to be considerate of the little girls parents and their feelings (seeing my DS1 and the other friends daughter together without her little one I'd imagine would be tough- especially so soon).

So would you take your child to another child's funeral?

Thanks in advance.

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