Farmgirl,

please do come join us in the social group. It's been a great place to feel supported through your feelings. I will invite you now.

I don't know if you know my story, so will give you a small rehash here. I had a tubal ligation at 26 at my ex's insistence, and when he and I split when I was 30, I had a reversal, which we discovered to be unsuccessful. I had a battery of tests which showed there was absolutely no reason why DH and I couldn't concieve with IVF because my only fertility issue was blocked tubes. IVF bypasses the tubes so by rights, we should have been pregnant within the first few cycles. Everyone we saw told us that.

But it took us 5 stim cycles and 3 FETs to fall pregnant, and in all that time, not even one smidgen of HCG in my system. No one could tell us why, it couldn't be anything underlying (like immunological issues) as I'd had 3 children naturally before. I spoke to the scientist directly. He was at a loss to explain it.

We were looking at PGD for our next cycle when all of a sudden we got a BFP. We couldn't believe it, but it proves one thing.

Sometimes it's not anything you're doing wrong. Often this caper is just a numbers game. Like throwing the dice and waiting for 2 sixes. Sometimes you get them first go, and sometimes it takes a lot longer than that.