I just wanted to say that I totally agree with what you all have said. I have not found an easy way to deal with these situations and feelings and I dont think there is one. I am going through the same thing at the moment with my brother's wife pg. They have a 4 1/2 year old and have had a m/c inbetween which I am sorry about but it doesnt stop me feeling jealous and angry that they are pg and I still am not. We have been trying since before they even met!!! I have 2 friends who conceived first try / accidentally the same time we started trying so I have constant reminders how long we have been trying too. I have gone through stages with my reactions to others pgs. I have been sad, angry, dissillusioned, self pittying, the list is endless. But, each stage has passed and my feelings have toned down a little now. Yes, I am sad when I think of what they have and I dont but I am no longer angry about it. I guess I just get angry about the way other people handle the situation around me rather than the fact that there are pgs all around. I also realise many people dont know details about our troubles and many are just doing what they hope is the right thing and not trying to hurt us. They are probably feeling uncomfortable about the situation. My Best F hurt my feelings a little when talking about another IVF girl she knows and her reactions to others pgs. I think she just doesnt realise the impact it has on us so I told her so. I think sometimes it is usefull to be frank about these things because at least can prevent future hurtful/awkward situations for yourself and others. I wish I could take my own advice when it comes to my family!!!
Good luck.
Sazz