Hi girls,
I have not contributed to this thread because of exactly what you said here BW.
I know there are times you just can't stand up and be heard because the emotions are still too raw.
but I think I can now as many of you lovely ladies have expressed some of the emotions I have been feeling.

I don't find the concept of having IVF to produce twins "insulting" but I do find it upsetting. I didn't vote as it is not quite the right word for me. In some ways it is resentment that someone can do what I can't but that they still want more. In some of the posts in this thread people have said everyone has the right to choose how they conceive. And that upsets me because no-one who has to do IVF would choose to do it. being infertile takes many choices away as you are forced to do somethings you would never wish to do. Just a few I can think of:
* stick yourself with needles a few times a day
* subject yourself to anaesthetic and surgery
* use your sick leave/annual leave/days off for doctors appointments/surgery
* ask your co-workser to cover for you for appointments
* sometimes have to tell your boss and co-workers about needing to do IVF
* work your social life around surgeries
* have sex when necessary (and not when you want to)

I am one of the lucky ones as medically I find IVF a breeze and have never had any problems, although I have had to undergo an unnecessary procedure. But I find the social aspects and the lack of choice and the things that are imposed on you to be really difficult. I guess it is having choice and control taken away. So for someone to still have control and choice over their fertility but then still want more, it upsets me. Yes, partly the green eyed monster but hopefully we are all allowed a little of that.

Can I say also that "assisted conception" is a business in America and some other countries, that does not resemble even slightly what we are able to do in Australia. In the US, as well as being able to transfer two embryos, you can buy eggs, sperm and surrogacy. In most states of australia, you cannot do any of that. I think the journo was right in deciding not to publish the story, even if only for the reason that it gives the wrong impression of what can be done in australia. I get a bit annoyed, with anything in the media that comes from the US and they try to localise it. We are very different societies with different laws and norms.