Elyse - if you ready the majorty of this thread, it is "Brad and Angelina aside" - even the initial poll question. what celebrities do in their life is of no consequence to me. i'm not a gossip monger, i don't read anything about them, or any other celeb, and i really couldn't care less what is going on in their lives. their humanitarian efforts, their mental health issues - they are not relevant to this discussion at all

what IS relevant is that the media use something that is EXTREMELY personal to a lot of us, and make it into the latest gossip to sell a few extra issues in a slow news week. the mentality that "if you can afford to pay to have your children conceived to your liking, who cares" - sorry, but a lot of us DO care. this attitude that money is able to buy you what you want is ridiculous and it's that attitude that so many of us find highly insulting. we're by no means living on the poverty line, but we have to work damn hard to save the dollars to pay for a treatment we have NO CHOICE but to undertake if we want to have a family. i have to submit to invasive, humiliating medical tests, risk my health every time, face a higher than normal chance of miscarriage, just to have a CHANCE to conceive even one child. i KNOW there is no guarantee of it working - and i sure as hell know there is no guarantee that there will be a twins pregnancy if two embryo's are put back - and i find it insulting that people think i'm taking the easy way out to do it this way!