thanks teme- that was a nice gesture of your SIL. You know I was sent a lovely card after my last miscarriage by a friend, who is not even a close friend, but someone I see every so often who heard what happened. She showed more understanding than some who are closer to me. so nice surprises do happen.
I think people avoid the subject because they dont know how to handle it and are scared of saying the wrong thing. Also i think it just makes them uncomfortable