Possom, I think this IVF journey of 5 years is like a little filter to retain the true friendship and to filter out the fair-weather ones IYKWIM. So to that, I am kind of grateful.

Most of my friends had their babies already in the last few years. Luckily I don't have any friends who is TTC or pregnant, it is hard in that case I know. And I can so relate to the feeling 'left behind' . It was hard at first but I am now very much used to the fact and loving to be part of their lives. I know this might sound funny but it is nice to babysit from time to time for my GFs and see a little toddler's face light up when I am driving in. I was so surprised that he can regcognize my car and then I was greeted by 'where is my presents?' I just have to laugh.

For some friends who are a bit intrusive/insensitive I think, I have left them behind and I never regret it. I do belive friendship should mature as you go through the life stages, if it doesn't, it shouldn't become your baggage.

On family front, my parents knew all along but they never voluntarily ask unless I tell them. Recently, due to some family event, we have also told DH's family and DH issued strict instruction not to ask anything. So far, this works too well to the point I wish they can just ask a little, ie. how are you feeling? but I guess they are too frighten about their son/grandson being annoyed, so noone dare to say a word....