It was so good to read others experiences with friendships.
I have begun to feel like a good luck charm to everyone else- all I come into contact with becomes pregnant without even trying!!
I can handle any of the IVF procedures, but it's the isolation that has come now with my friends moving forward with making their families that is most painful. And seeing them only reminds me of my own grief. My poor friends- they can't win. I'm upset if they tell me about their pregnancy, and upset if they exclude me from it. I had one friend who told me "there's more to you and I than just being pregnant, or trying to get pregnant", which I agree with, but I think people who have been able to fall pregnant easily don't get how all consuming it can be.
And at what point do we stop hoping and focusing on other aspects of life so it's not all consuming? And how?
Of late, I've been feeling very isolated from a few friends in much the same way as you.
A few weeks ago, I had 11 friends who were pregnant - the number is going down now that the babies are being born but it's still hard.
And your situation with your infertile friend - I have a friend who had IVF at the time I had my miscarriage so she is as many weeks as I would have been if my pregnancy had stuck and that is the hardest thing. She's really good with me but I struggle to be around her sometimes. It's hard. And I'm sure it's hard for her too though.
I've got my 30th birthday coming up and want to have a big night out - lots of the pregnant ladies have told me that they won't be coming but can we do arvo tea etc. Not quite what I had in mind, and maybe I'm being selfish but I guess there is nothing I can do.
I've rambled enough but just wanted you to know that you're not alone.
Hugs
S x
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