Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception - Feb 2008 #1

[Peta]

PLC - I definitely agree with the others, keep trying, you just never know what might happen. I get most frustrated when my FS makes me wait 6 - 8 weeks between cycles, so if you have the oppotunity, I say grab it with both hands & run!
Miss_C - so glad to hear you're doing ok. I was a bit worried for a while there. Sorry last cycle didn't work out . Very pleased to hear that you are going straight onto FET. Thanks for your thoughts on adoption too. It is appreciated.
Sylder - how are you & DW going? We don't seem to hear so much from you lately, you must be very busy.
Well girls, have a great night & I will speak to you all tommorrow.

[tiggerlinda]

PCL - If I felt right I would go this month AP can help prevent a MC

Miss C - So gald you got your answer hun Best Of Luck

Me 1 month till Lap today yay!

[plc1805]

Sorry guys if I sound a little crazy. I just suddenly felt so desperate about what to do. I wouldn't have held anyone to ransom with their comments but just needed to have some fresh thought on the matter. I do feel better and clearer about what I want to do. Thx TL, Peta, BBliss, Slyder for your comments - they helped.

[~BecD~]

I have come to the conclusion that I am not a lucky person.

We went to the clinic this morning for our counselling appointment at 9am, but when we got there, they had no record of our appointment. It must have "dropped out of the system". Fan-bloody-tastic. DH had to take half a day off his new job to get to the appt, I'm getting a migraine, but we travelled in peak hour traffic to get here and now we don't have an appointment?! They were very apologetic but there was nothing they could really do. It was really important that Murray could come along because he is really struggling with everything, maybe moreso than me.

I am just so over all of this crap! First the dramas with the IVM price change, then not having a frozen embryo, now appointments not being recorded.

Has anyone here ever written a letter of complaint to their clinic? I want to make some comments and suggestions, but I really don't want to affect the relationship between us and the clinic. For all their faults, I do really like my specialist, the nurses and other staff, plus they are the only clinic doing IVM, and I don't want to jeopardise my treatment.

Am pulling my hair out right now.

ETA - Just got a call from the clinic receptionist who has organised us another appointment with the counsellor next Monday evening.

[tiggerlinda]

Bec,

the system sometimes does fail us and I am sorry for you.

In relation to your letter I would go along the lines of friendly suggestions and cover off your frustrations but highlight the positives.

Happy to be a sounding board before you send it if you like. I know what it is to want answers and I wish I wrote a letter to the clinic that stuffed us around rather than being scared of them telling me I was still young like they always did.

Good luck and I am glad you have an appt next week

[Baby Bliss]

Geez Bec, you are having such a rough trot, you really are I know I had a couple of wobbly moments when I was forgotten my first cycle, it is hard because you have to have utter faith in these people. You are trusting them with something that has an enormous affect on yourself and Murray. When you go to hassle to get there, it is utterly devastating and it feels far worse than it should, because it all piles up. Thinking of you, my dear friend.

[Peta]

Bec - what a mess! i certainly would write a letter - maybe they could do with some constructive critisim, there is obviously a procedure which is falling down somewhere internally for them. i am probably not the best person to check the wording with though - i tend to fly off the handle & be far too blunt most of the time. i hope the new appointment they have given you is at a more convenient time.
General question - has anyone else noticed that the quick reply function has disappeared off the bottom of the forum page? i can only reply via advanced & hence not look back on everyone's posts to respond.
How cool TL that it is only one month till your lap. I hope time flies by for you.
Have a good afternoon everyone!

[plc1805]

Bec - I just can't imagine what ur going thru. At least you have an appt for next week but what a nuisance and inconvenience as far as today was concerned. Can ur hubby get time off again? Oh, I don't know how I would have been in that situation - try to focus on bigger picture I guess. Easy for me to say isn't it?

Hello and hugs to everyone else - thinking of each of you.

Sorry to go on about me again but just thought I'd keep you posted.
I've just come back from my OBGYN. As you may recall when I was having my crazy time last night that I wasn't sure about not TTC as the naturopath had suggested or to try anyway. After my OBGYN appt, I feel that all of my prior hysterics pale now cos I'm up against some other stuff. He basically said that 7 mths is considered a long while TTC especially when one will be 37 in May and not got a huge amount of time. I felt relieved at least that it was not all in my head and that I should just be relaxing more - my concerns actually were well-founded. So I am booked in for a lap on Thursday morning to check what's going on, possibly endo, possibly something else, possible nothing at all and, if nothing, maybe it's unexplained infertility. I kind of didn't expect that I would need the lap and all that but, hey!, what makes me so special - heaps of people on here are dealing with those and heavier issues all the time. My DH doesn't get off scot free either - he has to get his boys checked out. I actually feel more sorry for him (he's so shy, poor guy) than I do me. Btw, the OBGYN doesn't believe in naturopathy, says acupuncture is ok-ish, and not to waste time by not TTC.
I have had a good cry - going through a range of emotions and thoughts - now bring on Thursday. I can't get over how I can be so rooty-tooty fertile one minute and "all dried up" the next. Sigh!.... I don't mean to offend anyone with anything I may have said.