Boo - i'm so glad you've got a start date for your IVF cycle - it might seem like a long way off at the moment, but this year is flying by so quickly already, i'm sure it will be here before you know it! i know what you mean about not wanting your work to know what's going on too - i ended up having to tell a couple of managers that we were going through assisted conception (it was the only way to get any flexibility with work), and they knew we were starting things recently. with everything that has happened to both DH and i health wise lately, i've been able to tell a little porkie pie and say that treatment has been put off indefinitely while we get everything else under control - and now when i need to change days off or leave early/arrive late, i'll be saying i have another dentist appointment (i figure what they don't know won't hurt me!!) - as for the dentist phobia - i used to think i was fine, but with all the treatment i've had this past year, i think i've developed a bit of a phobia too - when the dentist said yesterday that i'd need surgery and that he was going to get me an appointment with the surgeon in the next few days, i had a pretty major panic attack (it would have been bad enough being told i needed surgery, but to be told, after 12 months, that it is urgent and needs to be seen to straight away...... just didn't sit too well) - will be talking to both FS (or his nurse) and dental surgeon about how the surgery will affect IUI treatment. here's hoping it won't!!