Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception - Nov 2007 #2

[Mon]

Well when is ever a good time I say! Unfortunately life is stressful that adding IVF on top of normal life just adds to the stress regardless of when. I was cursing yesterday when I found out that our planning days had been pushed back to the 1st and 2nd wk of december! Here I was thinking that they'd all be over with by first wk of dec, we'd go away for work xmas party, and then the following week in I'd go for epu, take some time off for that and then work till xmas and jan (as we need to present all our strategies by end of jan - conveniently when client comes back from holiday! gotta love it ... not!). I was going to try and avoid telling work that I'd be doing another round of ivf, but now that the planning days have been pushed back, I almost have no choice! My luck the day I need to present will be the day of EPU, so will have to tell work as director will have to cover for me!!!! Well what do you do! I want kids more than anything and nothing is going to stop me! Nothing in life is smooth sailing, so am going to have to go with the flow and roll with the punches! If I didnt have to work life would be so much easier, but you know some one has to pay the mortgage and the ivf cycles and then you want to spend time at home when baby finally arrives! unfortunately we are not really that lucky a country as maternity leave isnt enough if you cant save up to take mat leave! Why the government doesnt provide $ support whilst on mat leave is beyond me! We are one of the worst in the world! That sux but that is a whole other argument!
sorry for digressing! hope all is well with you all! sending you lots of baby dust!
Mon

[dusty]

mon i hear you hun. one thing we all learn with IVF is you really can't plan it exactly. things crop up, our bodies don't always respond the way we want them to etc. telling work always helps me. i just have to say 'things are tough with our cycle ATM' and i have instant understanding. i still have to do my job but I feel i have relieved my own pressure on myself, if that makes sense.

i know i have mentioned the book Sex at 6pm a bit on BB but reading Annarosa's story made me realise that we are in a unique situation with IVF and we all undergo similar experiences while the other part of our lives are expected to go on as normal. it really made me realise i am just doing the best i can and that i can't be exactly the same as i am when i am not doing IVF. funny enough people around me at work don't seem to notice much of a difference. i think because they are all so wrapped up in their own lives and selves.

and on the issue of mat leave support in Australia (with the US we are the only OECD country not to have universal paid mat leave) i too am not sure i want to get started on this topic in this thread, probably best for a vent in the Boo Hoo Room!!!

carla, arielle thanks for the good wishes

[Pookiegirlba]

Hello everyone!

I've been hellishly busy this week, so haven't had much time to post. But I've been popping in now and then to read everyone's posts.

Dusty, congrats on the embies - how exciting for you and DH!! I look forward to hearing how the next step goes.

No real news from me: still on the Synarel, and have my next appt on Thursday to do BT and find out how the hormone levels are. Funny story: when I had my first appt with the FS he said that he won't ring me unless there is some problem with the scans and BTs, so no news is good news. Well, yesterday I get a phone call from the FS! My heart dropped and I thought 'oh no, what's wrong" and he said he was just ringing to let me know that my ultrasounds were all fine, everything looks healthy and normal, and he just wanted to let me know!! I could have screamed! But it's good to know that everything's in good working order.

Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend.

Vicki

[dusty]

vicki, ah the dreaded phone calls where you always expect the worst! i am glad things are all going along well for you. you are lucky your FS gives you such personal attention, it doesn't always happen with IVF.

mel, i hope you have found you O time. nothing is ever simple with this game unfortunately. and best of luck for either today or tomorrow.

well i am jumping up and down, spinning around, freaking out and generally am excited! our 3 embies are going strong, all are 8 cell grade 1!!! we are going for 5 day blastocysts on tuesday and to see which ones are the strongest. we are in unchartered territory here.
i have full on urges and desire to have my embies back in me ASAP. funny i have never felt this protective and strong feelings for my embies before. in fact i really am wanting all three inside . overwhelming emotions of love and anxiety for my embies well being.