Oh Shannon sorry for your letdown with BFN and meltdown with DH
but 12dpo is still too early -

Many women now pregnant have had BFN on peesticks on their day of beta - which confirmed pregnant BFP - don't give up yet

Cazz- with your positive 'tude you will be the 'biggest loser' over Christmas - and well on your way to new cycle 10-29kg lighter or better still pregnant (and carrying a little extra is okay)