LTTTC Two Week Wait Thread Jan/Feb 2008

[waiting1]

farmgirl 77 - all i can say is stop that right now. I honestly did exactly what you did last FET - and it was a BFN. Now I wonder if i subconsciously willed it not to stick... I know that is impossible.. I was exactly the same was miserable during transfer and got back to work and howled for hours and all that night and was so sure it wouldn't stick..... and it didn't. I always thought third time lucky and said to DH that when the cells were more than even ie from 4 to more than 8 (as they were only 8 last time - whcih is normal) that it would be the one - now I am scared that I said that as the cells were at more than 9..... ahhhhhhh

RH 76 - the photos are cool. The first two DH didn't do it but this time when I was coming into the room to have the transfer he was sitting there with his camera. Just got two shots but its great because I can obsess over them.... ahhahahaha. Sorry I didn't realise you had had transfers before - for some reason I thought this was your first.
I am exactly like you today - bored out of my brain. I have watched dvd after dvd..... I have things to do like washing, but hey... I might be pregnant so am taking it easy... just joking....What is that pregnant by accident film. I am not even remotely interested in seeing that to be honest. I saw 27 dresses the other day - light hearted and good. I am legend was good too !
Good luck job hunting ! Ill keep logged in - in case you are bored and want to ramble to someone. Im watching sliding doors at the moment - still in pjs should probably consider getting in the shower and doing a load of washing....

If this is another BFN.... then I don't know... I think I will really lose all hope to be honest. You can sort of rationalise the first couple of goes as a numbers game... but if its a BFN, I guess I just keep trying? Luckily, my last two have been natural FETs so no drugs so I have to try to think that it is just like trying normally? ahhhhh its a killer isn't it.

[RH76]

Hi,

Farmgirl - thanks for the movie tip. I think DH has booked American Gangster - highly doubt there will be any pgs in that! Here goes with my tip - STAY POSITIVE! There's no reason to think that you'll get a BFN. At this stage it's really important that you think on the bright side, try and imagine a little embie getting nestled in and staying!

Waiting1 - thanks for chatting in here. I must admit that I've been lazing around in my dressing gown, but finally got in the shower! Hey, it's Sunday! I really do not want to do anything in case I am pg so I know where you're coming from with that one. I don't know of any film in particular to avoid, but there was that 'knocked up' recently - needless to say I avoided it like the plague. I seriously do not want to hear about any accidental pgs right now. The only pgs I want to hear about are from BB LTTTCers! I know that's selfish, but I have to try and protect myself.

Sliding Doors is great. I don't think I've seen it since I first saw it at the cinema years ago. I think I've got a dvd of it somewhere. I might just treat myself to some maltesers (naughty I know) and watch it this afternoon too!

My MIL told us that a family friend's son and his wife are pg, apparently it just happened! They don't know if it was on the honeymoon or just before the wedding. I said all the right things, "Oh, that's lovely". When inside I was screaming, "Who cares??? I don't even know these people!!!" A bit mean I know, but honestly, the TWW is not the best time to hear these things. Mind you, it never is really!

Please don't give up hope. I am still hopeful that one day we'll get our little one. With all of the technology these days I don't see why it won't happen for all of us LTTTCers. :hugs:

Here's some for all of us with some thrown in for good measure!

[waiting1]

Silly MIL !
My best friend told me that this awful friend of hers (even she doesn't like her so I used the term friend liberally) got pregnant on her honey moon as well - and I was the same as you.... oh that is nice - I dont know this girl well but I was like I dont care ! She is horrid - of course she gets what she wants when she wants it...... arrghhhh i feel in the 2ww like everyone around me is getting pregnant and like you I just want everyone here too !
Juno is the movie about the child that falls pregnant - just saw the ad on tv for it - no desire to see that. Knocked up was actually quite good if you can get over the one night stand pregnancy issue.....
My DH used to say lets just take heroin and live on the street and we will get pregnant straight away - not very nice I know but people will always get pregnant around us....I am sure it will be our turn too - if not this time - very soon........
I just wish there was a sign........

[RH76]

Hi,

Yes, the familiar feeling. Here I am wrapping myself in cotton wool, I eat really healthy food, exercise well, don't eat take out often, or drink soft drinks or alcohol (I cannot remember the last time I actually got drunk - probably about 2 years ago!), and still no baby for me. All around me I see pg women, drinking, smoking. It makes me so mad. My acupuncturist said that every time I see a pg woman, or a baby, I should repeat in my head "it will be my turn soon. I am prepared", but seriously, how many years should I do this for? I actually saw, what looked like a teenage couple with a baby in a stroller the other day, they were both smoking and looked terrible. Where is the sense in this world?

As we're going out for an early movie session soon, I decided to watch the tv instead and watched Relocation Relocation (UK) on foxtel. It's about buying houses. Anyway, a couple were looking for 2 places, a house in the country and a flat in the town. The woman was pg and was pulling up carpet, hiking up what looked like masses of stairs, carrying heavy boxes. There's me on my sofa talking to the tv "what are you doing?! you're pg, sit down and relax". Unfortunately when the presenters met up with them a few weeks later, she had mc and lost the baby. Very sad. but I really felt that she over did it and should have treated herself a bit better.

I have a thyroid problem, and my endocrinologist knows all about the ivf. Her advice is always to wrap myself up in cotton wool and have no stress at all. That's what I'm trying to do in this TWW.

Does your best friend know what you're going through at the moment? We've only told my parents, so my MIL doesn't know, but to be honest, it would make no difference. She keeps going on to my SIL, have another baby, go home and make another baby! It really annoys me. My SIL is a very self-absorbed individual and one that can fall pg by holding hands. Oh well, I'm sure I'm not the only one with insensitive in-laws.

Sorry for more rambling!

Hope everyone else is OK and are surviving the TWW.

[waiting1]

I have told everyone actually. I just feel better if I tell people - so yes she knows - everyone knows. My MIL is fantastic. Her eldest daughter - a year younger than me who is in Uk has issues too with both her and her DH so the family are all very understanding. I must say it is much much easier having a family who are not all getting pg around me.Really only about 6 of my close friends have children. A good friend just got pg on her first ICSI go ! and another girl from work after 2 y ttc feel pg I suspect through ivf but she doesnt say - so it does eventually happen it just a case of when is it our turn? I must say when I started telling everyone I thought it would work first time as I dont have any issues - but ah that wasn't to be the case so now I only tell people about the Transfers if they actually ask..just in case it keeps being BFN.
have a great night tonight. Ill look on from work tomorrow and see how all in the 2ww are coping.