It is so wonderful to hear from you all. Very reassuring! I will be thinking of you all when I go back to work to next week and face a whole heap of people who know far too much about my business and feel the need to make comments.
Trillian- How terrible. I hadn't even thought of those who may get a similar comment about 3rd, 4th, etc.
M2C- Thanks hun!
Widdly- So sorry you are having a tough time too.
Joyjoy- OMG what a terrible doc and she is a gynae? That's appalling.
Joyojoy & Kaydee: I also keep thinking about that age gap. There are 4 years between me and my sister and I thought was a bit big. That's why I started trying earlier. Now it's out of my hands.
To all of you in my boat may our #2 joy be just just around the corner.
Hi Sandygirl - I have just seen this and can most definately relate - it is like I actually wrote your post rather than you (IYKWIM). My DH also says that I should "just" be happy with our DD and sometimes doesn't really fully understand my desire to give her a sibling. I am really happy, that seems like such a bad choice of word, with our little girl, it took us approx 2 yrs TTC her and we have now spent 2 yrs TTC #2 after a M/C in Jan 07. I too get worried each and every day about the age gap (as so many of you in here), but like you said it is now out of our hands and the fact that I am now 43 doesn't help at all
It is especially hard when our DD asks why she doesn't have a baby brother and sister and could she have one - all her little friends do. I try to explain to her that she is special and unique, but I don't quite think that she gets that yet.
If it wasn't for wonderful BB and all you wonderful ladies in here, I would of given up a long time ago. Each new cycle brings new hope and the thought that perhaps this one is it.
Good luck to you and everyone else on this journey and may our dreams come true in the not too distant future.
Jodie- My heart goes out to you. I got teary reading your post. I think you worded it better than I did.
Absolutely agree with the fabulous support of the BB girls. I don't know how i would have gotten this far without being able to rant and rave on BB. again!
Thanks Possums - you are truly a remarkable woman and one who never ceases to amaze me. Wishing the you the best of luck in getting your little miracle also. Thinking of you always
Sandygirl - thanks - hugs to you also and I shall be looking forward to stalking the threads to see how you are going.
i also get these comments but we are TTC # 4 and i think the comments are worse ( not comparing though).
we have 3 boys and dh had a vas when last baby was 12 weeks old and i was sick. regretted it later but too late to go back.
anyway we get , why would you even want 4 kids, be happy with what you've got, why would you want to do this again ( as in have a baby)
be greatfull
and it goes on.
the thing is no matter what number you are trying for the desire for another child is the same, yes i do have children and i get to have a "mothers day" and i do know how blessed i am but the desire to finish our family is still just as strong as when i had my second or third.
i hope you get your BFP and 2nd child soon.
good luck
It is great to hear I'm not alone. I hate to speak to people about TTC for number 2 as I am totally blessed and know it having DS but still .....
I haven't been on much since going back to work after the birth of my 1st DS. After hearing the wonderful news of my two good friends one with their 1st and the other with their second - it starts to become a bit harder to bear. With have been TTC for 14 months. It took 10 months for my DS, so I didn't expect it to be easy but now its just wearing on me. DH not any help, he says I should stop worrying about it - it will happen. Mum just says relax (i know its just not that easy). My SIL went though the whole secondary infertility, 2 angel babies and low sperm count, but IVF worked first time and now they are pround parents to 2 children 3 1/2 years apart. All the mothers group all either have just had their 2nd or are pregnant. My DS is only 20 months - but I would of liked a smaller gap- wishful thinking now.
I got a lot of pity from my friends with TTC for DS as they only took 2-3 months. So I haven't told many people about TTC#2, I don't need the extra pressure.
may our #2 joy be just just around the corner.
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