Hi,

Just thought I'd share my stuff quickly. I was in a similar boat to you, I think. I fell pg with DS in 2008 from our first ever ivf cycle. So, I thought, no, I almost expected, that TTC #2 would be a breeze. We had heaps of frozen embies, so when the first one, then 2 didn't work I wasn't too disheartened (well that's in hindsight, but at the time it wasn't much fun). But it ended up taking forever and we had to go through a couple of miscarriages. Anyway, I think the reason I am telling you, isn't to get you down - it was just how my attitude changed. When we started out I thought "no pressure, I'm already a mum" etc etc, but as time went on and it looked like DS was never going to have a sibling, I was never going to feel a baby move inside me again, or breastfeed, or bla bla bla, I wanted it as desperately as the first - only this time I wasn't just sad for me, I was sad for DS too and for what he might miss out on.

I completely understand the money issues, and also had to borrow from family, but like with the first time round, you find the money if you need it and, as you know, it is worth every single cent and more.

I think I started out with a point here, but I've lost it now. Having a little one to look after definitely helps keep things in perspective - it is hard to stay in a crumpled heap when you have a little hand tapping you on the shoulder and pulling you to come and play.
Good luck!!