Jools, I think you need to wait for her to bring it up - sometimes we just don't want to talk about it, particularly if we're having a bad day and on those days the worst thing you could do is start asking questions.

It's not uncommon for people undergoing IVF cycles etc to not even tell people they are close to that it's happening. It makes it much easier on us that way because we don't have people asking questions every 5 mins and waiting for the outcome.

I can't speak for everyone of course, but that's how I felt. We told no one but my parents, not even my best friends.