The worst comments came from people telling me to "slow down" and not to work / study etc so much. That when I did we would get pregnant. Assuming that DH and I were unable to arrange our shifts for conception to occur. I also hate the "relax" and "take a holiday" comments. Worse still was when some asked if I would be slowing down or doing less after Caitlyn was born - as if my workload had anything to do with her death (and it didn't). That one received a rapid snap of "do you really think my working is the reason my baby died".