I've been swing madly from coping and ok, to really not coping and crying all afternoon... I'm an absolute mess! I'm sure it's all just taking time to process and sink in, though. Funny how before the appointment I kinda expected this, and was trying to prepare myself for it. I guess it just goes to show - you just can't prepare yourself for this sort of news!

Mako, there's an excellent book which helps with the male side of this - swimming upstream. There's a thread about it in the general conception discussion forum. I have read it and found it to be great. I think I'll have to give it to DH tonight. Basically it explains the male aspect of infertility and assisted conception. It tells them how we feel, and tells us how they feel. If your DH won't talk, maybe the book will help?

Thanks so much for the hugs and support, it really is helping me get through this.

BW