Lisa,

wow that poem is really beautiful, would you mind if I post it on my facebook page of course I will leave your name on it, its your work afterall but I think it really hits home everything I wish I could say to a lot of people.

Let me know if it is ok or not I am happy either way

Susan :hugs: isn't it funny how a bunch of strangers can understand how special Brendan is and yet your family cannot. It's sad really. Our garden for Niki has about 250 plants in it talk about over compensating, but the roses we have there are two Heaven Scent as you walk into her garden, then there is one Mothers Love, one Paradise and the one that is behind her plaque is Peace. Your garden sounds like a wonderful peaceful place for reflection .

Beata - You will find there will be a lot of well meaning people tell you that its time to "move on and get over it" I always say to them that I will never get over it but I plan to move around it and I always ask them " think about it, if you lost one of your kids (or in the people who don't have kids their partner or dog/cat basically anything they treasure more than life) how would you feel if someone told you to move on?"

I do try to do it diplomatically and try a little humour but I usually get my point across.

x x