You're in the right spot

We had a loss at 12 weeks too. mrsmac made some great points about not discounting your baby because it was a BO. If it helps you to think of it that way, then do. You'll know the right thing to do.

I was also really upset by how much people avoided us. Some of our friends called DH's parents to see how we were going, but didn't contact us at all, which was doubly upsetting. One particular couple (admittedly, pregnant, 6 wks ahead of us) didn't contact us until 7 months later. It's a great leveller, and you certainly know at the end of it which friends are worthy of keeping.

If you want to share more with others who have experienced a loss, the TTC after loss thread is pretty god, even if you're not TTC - we had to wait 6 months before we could try again, and I still hung out in there anyway.

I hope you're OK.