You lost a baby - even if the baby didn't develop beyond the blastocyst stage, you had a life there that you prepared yourself to welcome. You are letting go of the baby in your heart, even if your body let it go a long time ago.

Much peace to you - I had a blighted ovum at ten weeks that I had no clue about, I didn't even realise I was pregnant. But, I've had a miscarriage before where I've had to "recover" on the post natal ward and that's just cruel.

Whereabouts in Melbourne are you? PM me if you like.