I'm so sorry, Anna.
Please don't take this on board as something you or dh said or did, I really don't believe it works that way.
If it did, so many more of our beautiful ttcers would already have their wishes.
You must be so hurt and frustrated right now, please be gentle with yourself and with each other. Hold each other close and take comfort in knowing that your body is capable of a h & h pregnancy if you do decide to try again.
Again, I'm so sorry x