I am so sorry that not only have you had to endure the loss of 2 babies, but then such insensitive comments. She obviously has no understanding how heartwrenching this is for you. I would consider my whole family (including myself) to be religious, and yet they were all devastated when I lost Nathaniel. Being religious made no difference to them - as they all felt the loss of my baby and understood how this had effected mine and DHs lives.

I agree to just give yourself the distance from her that you need.

I have been pretty lucky with comments - just the usual 'these things happen'....umm yes they do as I have just experienced.
One tacky comment from DHs relative - 'So I hear you have to start over again'. This one particularly stung as we are already fully aware of this point, but hearing it hurt.
And the best one - 'I am praying that by next Christmas you will have a real baby' - excuse me but I have had a real baby!!! I was so angry when this was said to me but I just sucked it up.

Look after yourself and big hugs.