Oh Hayley, i think you have the cake on this situation!!!

Your mum has alot to answer for!! Why would you put something like that in a christmas letter???????????? Its not even HER bad news to Share!!! Isnt the letter supposed to be about HER??? i am absolutely flabbergasted at this, i am assuming she didnt send you one, or you would have known already, and not had to hear it from someone else!!On the earfull you have already given her, she still needs more!!

I think you are totally in your right mind to give her another earfull and explain to her that while "HER generation" may not see this as a big deal- ANYTHING that happens in YOUR private life is YOUR life and she should respect that.

And surely if she noticed that you had trouble sharing the news of your most recent m/c with even HER, that maybe, just maybe that MIGHT be an indication that you arnt ready to share this news with the whole world!!!! Um DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are not overreacting here at all, it is YOUR life, YOUR losses and it should Bloomin well be YOUR choice who knows and who doesnt.

BIg hugs to you Hayley, i am on your side and ready if you need any help with that email

And BTW, I am very sorry for your losses....

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