Its getting worse and worse

[*Nessa*]

HOney i really have no advice.

I just wanted to give you a hug cause you sound like you need it :hugs:

[Charlyfrog]

Sending you :hugs: love!!

I was a bed wetter myself and even had panic moments right through high school My parents tried everything and settled on humiliation which let me tell you, was NOT what they should've done and is the dumbest solution around! I had all types of tests done and the drs etc could find nothing physically wrong........

Hindsight prompts me to think that it was an inner issue iykwim. Whilst my parents loved each other, home life was always on edge...........they sorted things out by massive yelling and arguments, we'd get smacked for punishment......it really was a tense living environment that I can now only see by looking back. It was only when my constant came on the scene, my stable, reassuring, solid rock .... my DH, came along that I felt I finally had a safety net and didn't have to walk on egg shells! (my problem sometimes reared its ugly head even in highschool and my parents never thought to look deeper than the inconvenience I gave them )

Just reading your post, even where your DSS doesn't seem to mind about it all, made me wonder if deep down that his new world of mum and then dad and step mum might be causing his brain a few issues?? I am no dr in anything, so I am just going from personal experience............

I even went as far as to do practical things for myself...............I stopped drinking after a certain time at night before bed to ensure my bladder wasn't busting, set my alarm to go to the loo (either you could wake your DSS or get him to set his own alarm and take a some of the responsibility?)
I remember being petrified of having friends sleep over or going over friends houses but your DSS sounds like this might actually work for him as he was fine on the camp?? Could this be an idea as a reward system??

The thing that I know really helped me through was unconditional love, understanding and not making a big deal, it was just something I had to deal with and so did it with DH..........never had an issue since our early months of being together but even when we were married because it had only been a couple of years I shared my embarrassing fear with DH and sharing it with someone who didn't judge and just loved me was such a relief................

...been married almost 10years and thank God! Never looked back!!

I don't know if me sharing helps at all............I guess I just wanted to send you encouragement because you sound like such a wonderful mum, step mum or not, you're just a wonderful mum! And I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you!