THanks guys for your support - he has been linked with a child psych (alfred CHAMS) for the past 3 or 4 years. He use to see them on a weekly basis, but now fortnightly - i think the suprrort was initially put in place when his Mum went into rehab, but not sure as we didnt find out about it til sometime down the track. DH has met with them once or twice and apparently they do discuss the bed wetting with him.

The other thing that i thought i should mention is that DH and I have been together since DSS was 18mths old, and have probably been the only stable relationship that he has seen in his life. So it is not a new thing for him, and he has been totally included in our lives (right down to holidaying with my family)

I do agree though it is something inner - just dont know how to support him through this and help him stop