Hi all,

I need some advice.

I started a thread ages ago re DSS and his bed wetting, i will give you the basic run down

-aged 10
-day time toilet trained since 2 with occasional accidents til 4 or 5
-initially night time toilet trained at 4 with once a month accidents
- got worse when his Mum became a bit unstable at about aged 6 was wetting 3-4 nights a week - over the past 4 years has fluctuated with god and bad phases but never has gone a week without a wet bed.
-has seen peditrician and ped urologist re condition = not physical
- was going to camp last year so stopped totally the week leading up to camp and for a month afterwards we were so excited and thought that this was the end.
- since Deember he has been flooding the bed EVERY night and not even waking when he is wet.
- Christmas Eve has been his onl night that was dry, but we were all sleeping in the same room, so each time i got up to pee i would wake him so i didnt have to deal with a wet bed in the morning.
- Have tried speaking to his Mum who says he will grow out of it so just tolerates it (WTF he is 10 years old )
- DSS does the bed changing
- he went through a tearful stage no so long ago, each morning he would wake up wet and cry, but evenually he told us that he was crying as he knew thats what we wanted to see - he actually didnt mind. Since that admission, he no longer crys, just gets up, changes his bed and then plays or reads.
- we have tried every solution sugested by everyone (incontenece web sites, drs, family and friends) from rewards for no wetting, punishments - not physical, waking in night, bed alarms, talking about it, positive reinforcement, medication (no longer takes as pead urologist says it is a waste of time as there is nothing wrong) homeopathic remedies, visulisation.

The long and the short of it - i think that he really just doesn't care. he will stop for camp (just in case we were telling him the truth and he would get teased - he doesn't believe deep down that he would) or something that he wants - but then it is back to wetting every night. and these wet beds are huge - full bed strip every morning.


Basically i have no idea what to do anymore - we know it is nothing physical so do i just accept that he doesn't want to stop yet?

Thanks in advance