Hi Sammie,

First of all....well done! Sounds like you've been doing a fabulous job under challenging circumstances and having been willing to try whatever it takes to help your step son. I know your patience wears thin at times, but hang in there....what goes around comes around, and eventually, your step-son will appreciate your efforts and see things for what they really are as far as his mum is concerned, if you know what i mean. Yes, she will always be his mum, but it doesn't automatically mean she will have his respect.

The only thing i wanted to mention about the bedwetting is that it could be a neuro-physiological problem, related to his primary reflexes. All baby's are born with reflexes as we know, and these reflexes develop and integrate into the body at certain developmental stages and in certain sequences. These in turn help the brain and nervous system develop, particularly our movement and sensory responses. Sometimes, one or more of these reflexes don't integrate into the body correctly, for varying reasons, and the result can affect things such as voluntary movements, sensory perception, learning, behaviour. Prolonged bedwetting is a common indicator for a retained spinal reflex and can really easily be rectified with some simple exercises / massage / bodywork. It might take a bit of detective work to find someone who does this type of therapy, but may prove useful. You will need to look for someone who does Integration Therapy, or says they work with Primary Reflex Integration. Often, there are Chiropractors, Osteopaths, Massage Therapists or Behavioural Therapists who do such work. I'm a massage therapist who works a lot with children, and i have found this kind of therapy really useful, easy for the parents/kids to attend to and provides remarkable results.

If nothing else, it's something else that you can cross off the list of "Things we've Tried".

All the best in your endeavours and i hope you find a solution soon