Hi Sarah,
Thanks for that - for a long time there was no bed wetting at our house as it was not acceptable beaviour.
Re the getting up at night thing, he tells us that he is not scared to at our house (he does have a tourch in case) and now the toilet is less than 2 metres from his bedroom he doesnt have to go past any dark areas.
We talked about being scared and he admitted that he had a red light globe in his lamp at his mums house that made the shadows scary, we let her know this and suggested it could be removed - not sure if this has happend thou.
It is definatly the case as this is the reason that he often gives. We do acknowledge that at times there are real accidents, these are usually if he has had a huge day or a later night, but we try to comepensate for this with waking a bit later and checking on him through the night. the accidents dont bother us at all and we accept them. He is also usually very honest as to whether it was a really accident or whether he just didnt want to get up.
Sharleen - thanks for the tips, i think that we have tried every single one of these things. The pediatritian that he saw, would not medically treat any further as he realsied that it was DSS not getting up at night, not any disfunctional bladder issues. Which left us with not much further to go.
I think that the real problem is consistancy