FionaJill Thanks for your reply - he has been stripping his bed and remaking it for the last 2 0r 3 years (although i am not sure that he does at his Mums)... We have offered to have him more often (we see him every other weekend and half of school hols) but his Mum has refused, this will sound nasty, but it is not for any other reason than she believes that she will be entitled to less money (for example, we offered to have him all of these holidays as she was working, but she wanted him to go to her friends houses, no kids - that DSS really dislikes, either that or he has to go to work with her and sit alone all day and he has vocalised that he would prefer to stay with us) So unfortunatly that wont work - when he did stay with us for an extended period he stopped wetting, but as soon as he returned to her place he started agian.

eleven27 thanks also for your comments, my sister is a myotherapist and i will get her to look into this. We are willing to try everything, and i think that your suggestion is the only one that we (DH and I) havent tried.

DH and i have had several chats about this and all of the comments so far. We had decided that we really are at the end of our options, so we are going to sort of ignore it, as in, not make a fuss if he is wet at all, and try not to make any comments and hopefully he will grow out of it. and support him if he wants to discuss - i think that is all we can do now.