I am sorry , I just wanted to offer some support, it must be hard trying to help him with something like that and then having the mother not be on the same page as you. Sounds like she is causing more problems than actually helping with any of it.

I recently heard that some people believe that having the tonsils removed can help with bed wetting, but that is more the case where I think the tonsils are causing sleep apnea or something. The child is having interrupted sleep so that when they are actually asleep they sleep much more deeply and don't wake up when they feel an urge to urinate. In an article on the NewScientist website (Bed-wetters could breathe easier), a doctor at the Prince of Wales Hospital in Sydney also suggests that a narrow palate which may cause the child to have breathing problems which would result in bed-wetting.

But from the sounds of it I'm not sure that that would apply to your DSS.

I just thought it was something interesting that I had never considered until recently. I used to wet the bed until I was 12 But not all the time, probably a couple of times a month. But still that was pretty embarrassing, even though a few of my friends still did it then too..

I hope you find something that helps soon and that DSS' mother actually goes along with it.