to add to what ive said.... when i say someones path has taken them somewhere that doesnt involve me, i dont think of it as a 'higher plane'

Higher plane of exsistance doesnt sit well with me...sure if someone is a great person they desearve to go to one...but i dont know...i just dont feel comfortable thinking of it like that...makes me uneasy in the stomach. they are just somewhere different to me/us. not better or worse...just different.
I probably didn't explain it very well, and even now I can't think of any way to put it - I don't mean a higher plain as if they are sitting on top of a cloud in heaven looking down on us.. more like ... I dunno.. like a different dimension? Is that a better way of explaining it? Argh I suck at explaining this stuff and what I mean.