What a fabulous post Limey!

There isn't anything that doesn't go "bing" for me!

Also grief that is felt now can also touch on grief from the past - and grief isn't necessarily caused just by death as we all know. How people process grief can tell us a lot about how one processes or deals with life.

Some people get really sad and depressive, some get angry, some seek understanding, some really need to connect with others- all are "normal" (oh how I dislike that word "normal" lol).

But like you Lime I also like to focus on the positives of the loss. The way that the loss of a friend/relative/lover/neighbour/etc really highlights what's important in your own life. For me it's feeling the sun on my shoulders, birds, kids laughing, the sea - just seeing the love that is outpoured. It's impossible to be angry & so much understanding is shown by people who we wouldn't normally touch or be touched by! That's the gift.

I agree that it's only us that feel we've been "robbed" of that person that are sad & in that way I guess it's selfish...