Mako - I certainly know how you feel. My IL's took my girls down the coast swimming in the ocean without asking me. Firstly that is an hours drive away and I fret if my kids go in the car with someone else, and secondly they had 4 kids in the water with them including my 2 yo. I had a panic attack but they survived albeit sunburnt. Hugs babe it is a hard position to be in