I'll have to get back to you for a proper answer but You are not alone - even if it feels that way. It is hard to juggle it all.

My quick suggestion is to feed the children and do their washing and leave DH to do his own. If he complains about what is in front of him, then he can get it himself!! If he complains about the chores not being done, he can do them himself. He survived when he was living solo. I'm sure he won't starve or go stinky for too long