even though there is always a chance we may have a miracle, i am facing this exact situation. DH is older (yeah, it's not really a drama how old he is, BUT, it does enter the equation for us) - and i can't see me wanting to go the AC path again for quite some time - this is where his age enters it - i don't want to still be going through AC when he's 50 - it's not fair! so i have kinda resigned myself to E being an only bubba. we will play russian roullette - and if it happens, fantastic - but with all the hurdles we've faced, i seriously doubt it... it's a tough pill to swallow...