My DD1 was 9 months old when she started family day care - one afternoon a week...initially I felt an enormous wrench every time I left her, but to be honest we'd chosen a great carer and every time I left her and came back and found her happy, and with my energy boosted, it became easier and easier. I also believe it takes a village to raise a child, my FDC lady and her family were part of that village and DD thrived in her care.

I'm now in the throes of finding a FDC mum for DD2, who is 6 months old...in a few weeks, and given the right carer, I will be ready to leave her for a couple of hours at a time. This is part of a longer term plan since my DH often works away and may be absent for longer periods later this year. I recognise the need to recharge for my own mental health, so I'm not just surviving, but actually enjoying life. I hope you can find a solution that you are comfortable with.