I know this is an old thread, but I am reviving it because tonight I am feeling this question SO keenly.

I have a unique situation- DH and I run our business from home and the idea was that we would share child-care and work responsibilities. In reality at the moment, he does more office work and I do more child/home work. But it seems like his job ends and mine never does- NEVER. I feel like I am constantly "on call" for either my child or work. In the tiny amount of spare head space that I have, I try to maintain a marriage and its being put under a lot of strain. There is no time for me. No time when I am not thinking about someone or something else, always kind of 'on edge' waiting for the next thing I need do.

I just want to cry and cry and it feels like there is no-one to cry to. I know my DH is finding things hard too. He is working really hard and has very little time as well. I am so used to him being my support, being able to talk about things with him. Now it feels like he has nothing left to give me, and I feel like I have nothing left to give him. I miss him. I miss myself! I feel like I am very often emotional and I think my DH is sick of me bleating to him. I feel guilty adding more to his burdens.

Its really hard to afford a babysitter to try to get time together or time alone. How the hell do I do this? Will it get better? Part of the problem is that I seriously don't see how its going to change....its years before Peter goes to school and I'm not coping after 9 weeks!!! I know its still a time of adjustment, I am just having so much trouble with it and I feel very alone. Thankfully, my mothers group is starting soon and I am really looking forward to emotional and practical support there.

I know my situation is nothing new! Just after some words of encouragement and support!