it sounds very rough.

My dh does looooong hours so I too do mornings and nights by myself.... We also have irregularity which I think is almost worse because it's really hard to find a rhythm.

The things that help me are cooking huge batches of meals on the weekend so the weeknight meals are sorted, and using the tv in the morning. We tape play school and it goes on first thing each morning so I can have some time to shower, breakfast and ease into the day.

Good luck!