We've started looking after my nephews a lot (family issues), so in teh past few weeks we've needed to 'guide' J a couple of times. Mainly about screaming in the house - it affects Mum differently to others, as she has Multiple Sclerosis, so he needs to learn that he can't scream when he's here. The other thing he does is this grating, fake cry when he's unhappy about something. We're trying to encourage him to tell us what's wrong, so we can help with it, rather than just sit there getting progressively more hysterical at us.

We have a naughty chair, which is in full view of everyone, it's between the lounge/dining area. He can still see us, but he seems to realise that he needs to stay there, because we never have to keep him on it, he waits for us to get him. He's never on there for more than 3 mins, as he's only 3 yrs. Honestly though, Mum and I hate it with a passion. He sobs and sobs when he's on the chair, and when he comes off he's cringing - I don't know what's going on in his head, but I don't like the outward signs.

Last week when he lost it and wouldn't listen, I just picked him up and held onto him, so he needed to calm down. I stood for a bit, until he calmed down, and then I sat on the couch but kept holding him and rubbed his back, until his breathing was regular and he would talk to me. He finally told me what he needed, and then I was able to help him - I much prefer that method personally.