Nic ... OMGEE she sounds like my DD ... just in her own little world , doing things other kids their age dont normally do ... i really feel for you and i totally know what your days can be like ..... DD is in daycare 3 days a week , as i just cant deal with the constant battles that we face ... shes 2.5 and everyone says , " theres just something different about her " .
i get where they come from .... ive felt it too .... and i get the part about letting them grow up too soon . as DD can have a proper conversation , and is so independant its frustrating ... when my DS was 2.5 he still only had a few words and played and acted like a baby ( well not a "baby" but ykwim ) he wasnt anywhere neat the 2 going on 22 , that my DD is ...

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Olivia can have full conversations to.. I try and avoid the shops with her too.. Even when the boys are at school she can be horrendous. Not always though..

she was so good today except we noticed she has drawn all over the hall way walls thankfully with chalk. I have no idea when she did it. I was in the lounge the whole time and the hall is off the lounge. I did go to the toilet twice so maybe then.. Who knows..

What is your DD like at bed time? olivia is terrible still.. We have to sit in there with her and most times consist of a screaming tantrum or kicking and carrying on.. I play lullabies off youtube After about 3 songs she is out like a light.. and it all starts again at 5am..